For the record...

[dragonimp]

I hate open invitations. They put all the pressure on me to come up with a time, figure out if it's convenient, worry about it being an imposition, make the contact, feel all sorts of awkward, and then if we go a significant amount of time without getting together it's my fault.

They're up there with comment to be added posts in my list of aggravations right now.

Comments

[lynx212]

I can feel your pain. For something that is supposed to alleviate the feeling of being pressured it damn sure manages to do the opposite. HUGS

[dragonimp]

Yeah, it does -_-;;. I think it was invented by people who don't have any social anxiety.

[nochick_fics]

I'm totally the same way with regards to gift giving. When I ask people what they want and they're like "Oh, get me whatever" I stress to no end about it. I really do. Gift giving is never a pleasant experience when that happens because I worry and fret and then worry and fret even more when I think they hate what I chose.

Perhaps insist on setting firm meeting dates/times? I know some people are go-with-the-flow types, but it's not like you'd be requesting anything out of the ordinary.

[dragonimp]

Yeah, the "anything's fine!" gift giving is another area of trouble. But on the other hand I've been kinda guilty of that because I tend to blank out when asked what I want. But I try to at least give some guidelines ^^;

I should insist on something more concrete. Unfortunately that still means I need to work up to send an email/message out of the blue.